Dear MTN, My name is Marie and I've never written to a singles column before. I have a STD, and am afraid to date. I caught it in College, and immediately broke up with the guy because he admitted cheating on me and giving me this disease. Since then, and now I'm 30, I'm too afraid to date. I think I'm attractive, because men tell me I am everywhere I go. I am very successful with my job. I have everything going for me, except the right person to share my life with. It never bothered me before not dating, since I kept myself busy with work, family and friends, but now I met someone at work, and for the first time really want to date! I am very unsure of dating someone and telling them about this std, because I'm sure it will make them run for the hills. What should I do? Should I try to forget this guy and remain a hermit, or should I date him and tell him and run the risk of losing him. I am also afraid he might tell everyone at work. Is there any help for me? -Marie Dear Marie, I am so sorry you had to go through this very difficult situation, and it sounds like you've had to deal with it alone. My first advice to you is to see a doctor. In college many students catch std's, and now there are different medications out that might just help you. Your doctor will give you all the current information and facts on this, and you might not need to worry as much as you think...As for dating, you need to get yourself out there and meet guys. I'm sure you're not planning on meeting someone right away and jumping in the sack with him-because obviously, that would not be the right thing to do with whatever std you have. But do the usual dating process. When the times comes for the next level of intimacy, that's when you need to be honest. By then you'll also have the expert advice of your doctor on what to do...I have a feeling that you are worrying more than you have to...So take a deep breathe and dive into the fabulous world of dating! And of course, good luck and be careful. Dear MTN, My name is Ryan and I'm 27. I got married last year. My wife, 29, is so busy with her job as a business owner (she sells her own jewerly and is quite successful), that we still haven't even taken a honeymoon. Every time I mention this to her I hear the usual answer, that she's too busy to take time away from her business and her customers. She has assistants but claims she is the only one that can do everything, and the whole business would fall apart without her for a week. I am getting very tired of hearing this. She works about 60 hours a week. I have a 45 hour a week job as a financial planner, so when I get home it's me that makes dinner and cleans all before she gets home. Lately she's also complaining that she could do a better job at cleaning if she had the time and never gives me compliments on the dinners I make. I know we got married for better or worse, but this is the worse stage I guess. Honestly if it gets any worse, I know I can't handle it and I'll want out. I'm already preparing for that day because I sense it's coming soon. I know you deal with single's problems, but I hope you could make an exception that we are married, because actually I might be single one of these days if things don't get better. Thank you for any advice you can give me. -Ryan Oh Ryan, this is a tough one. There are a lot of things that are going on here all at once. I can only imagine how hard this is on you. There are so many things that must be done if you want to save this marriage. First of all, please make an appointment with a marriage counselor or something of the sort. You both need professional help with this. I have a million questions I would love to ask you first before giving you any advice, but just be going with what you've told me-I would bet your wife is a control freak. Unless she works for the CIA, her job can't be that important that she can't sneak in a week to relax with you. Especially knowing that it's your long over due honeymoon. You have to tell her that the honeymoon must be taken, and tell her that you're at the end of your rope. As for the critisizing on her part-tell her make her own dinner, or simply go out for dinner. If she doesn't like the way you clean the house, hire a cleaning lady. Tell her your done being the maid and cook for the relationship. I'm going to suggest that you go by what the counselor says, because my advice might be too harsh. But it sounds to me that she does not appreciate you and thinks the world revolves around her, so my advice is to "DUMP HER!" Maybe even when she sees that you mean business and you're done being her door mat, she'll come to her senses and change her ways. I really wish you the best of luck. Sorry I couldn't give you nicer advice! Maureen Tara Nelson Private Matchmaking, Inc. 1-888-31-MATCH