Dear MTN, I'm home from college and dating a great guy there named Greg. Last night I was out with my friends and we met a group of great guys. One of them, Charlie, talked with me for a few hours and we had a great time. My question to you is this...how do I go about telling someone I have a boyfriend? It was very uncomfortable for me and I didn't know what to say, so I said nothing. Now he looked me up on Facebook and has been sending me messages. I feel guilty because of my boyfriend back in school for talking with this guy, and at the same time, I still don't know how to tell him I have a boyfriend, especially, when I should have told him last night? Please help. -Debra Dear Debra, I understand the uncomfortable feeling of not knowing what to say and if you should say you have a boyfriend especially when you are just talking to someone for the first time. But obviously, this guy likes you. So now you have to step up to the plate and tell him about Greg. In this particular case, just be honest and tell him you weren't sure if he was interested in you or not that's why you didn't mention this to him last night, but the truth is I have a boyfriend...Simple...In the future, when you meet a guy, handle it up front. My rule of thumb is if the guy talks to you for more than a half hour, assume he is interested, and just mention that back in school you are seeing someone. It's not as hard as you think. This way there is no confusion. Have fun in school. Dear MTN, I am a recently divorced man in my sixties, and don't know the first thing about dating. I was married for almost 40 years. My wife and I just simply grew apart. I became involved in politics and she didn't feel comfortable leading the life that that entails. She told me last year she wanted a divorce. Last Friday, on Good Friday, I received my final divorce papers. The thing is I loved being married. Some men I'm sure would enjoy the freedom of being able to date again, especially since I am fortunate enough to say I am financially stable, have a beautiful home, and a great career. But again, I don't want to start the dating process at my age. Any suggestions? -Anonymous Dear Politician, Very rarely do I promote my service directly in my column, but this time I have no choice. This is the exact reason why people come to me. You must call my office, come in for your complimentary appointment, tell me all about yourself and what you are looking for, and I will literally do ALL THE REST FOR YOU! You are a great catch and probably a very BUSY man. Why go through the rat race as I call it, when you can come to me and not worry about a thing. I'm looking forward to hearing from you soon. 1888-31-MATCH. Dear MTN, I had a boyfriend for five years and we opened a business together. Things were great in the beginning. At one point, in the business, we needed to borrow some money, so my parents graciously offered to lend us $30,000. I know you're going to ask this, so I'm letting you know, we didn't get anything in writing, as stupid as it sounds, this was the man I was soon to marry. Well, last month I found him cheating on me and immediately broke up with him. As you can imagine, my parents asked for their loan back since we are going to divide the business and he will buy me out. When I approached him on this subject, he is so angry at me for breaking up with him, even though he's the one whose cheated, he told me to go to hell, that he will never pay back my parents. Is there anything you can suggest? -Amy Dear Amy, Amy I am so sorry this had to happen to you. Obviously you need a lawyer, and a good one. But unfortunately, you have nothing in writing, so as you suspected that is the huge problem. Of course the attorney's advice is more valuable than mine, but I'm pretty sure that without a written contract of any kind, you're very generous parents are out of the money. I wish I could give you better news. But the only good thing about this situation is that you're making other people aware, as in my readers, that any type of loan, even if you are sure this person will never leave you - you must get it in writing...If you feel uncomfortable, just say my attorney won't let me lend out any money without it being in writing, that way it doesn't come from you. We never know the future, and with the divorce rate being so high, you just never know. So thank you for helping my readers learn a very valuable lesson. Best of luck to you with your attorney. Please send in your questions to [email protected]. Maureen Tara Nelson Private Matchmaking, Inc. 1-888-31-MATCH