Dear MTN, I have been married to the same woman for almost 30 years. We have a good marriage, with our usual ups and downs. We have 3 great kids. I recently saw my wife looking on Match.com on the computer. She didn't realize I had come home and was standing behind her. Once she saw me she screamed and started a fight with me that I was sneaking up with her. I naturally am very angry at why she was looking on a singles site for men, and she won't even talk about that because she is mad at me. I didn't do anything wrong. I can't help it if she didn't hear me come in. Well that night we fought all night and she ended up sleeping in the guest room. I don't know what to do. I am just asking her a simple question as to why she was on the site, and she won't answer...Please, any advice at this point would be great. - Thomas. Dear Thomas, This whole crazy internet thing is ruining so many once healthy marriages. I am afraid to say that the fact that she won't answer your simple question and keeps reflecting it back on you, is a huge red flag. You do need her to answer the question, no matter what. Just prepare yourself for whatever the answer is going to be. Hopefully she was just looking for fun because the girls at work were all talking about it, and it is innocent. You need to ask her point blank, if anything is going on and if she's corresponding with any of these men. If she is, that's cheating. Maybe not physically cheating, buy mentally cheating. If that's the case, you both need counseling, and fast. I'm sorry you are going through this, but sometimes after 30 years, a one or two time visit to a counselor is just what the doctor ordered and might even bring you closer in the long run. Good luck. - MTN Dear MTN, What is your favorite book and why? - Ralph Dear Ralph, My favorite recent book is "The Secret" and I recommend it to every one of my clients. It is all about the Law of Attraction, and I use that a lot in my matchmaking program. Definitely read it and let me know what you think. - MTN Dear MTN, I just have a quick question for you. I am an attractive woman, 42 years old, slim, with a good sense of humor. Now for the first time in my life I feel like I'm ready to share my life with a man and actually have a child. Do you think it's too late for me? Has my ship already sailed? - Tina Dear Tina, I have dealt with this subject a lot and luckily it isn't too late. However, I do not suggest you waste any time. I would suggest you call my office asap and make your free consultation! - MTN Please send in your questions to [email protected]. Maureen Tara Nelson Private Matchmaking, Inc. 1-888-31-MATCH